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Here's my story

and how I came to be a Love Coach for Women

 

My mom chased her boyfriend across the living room with a knife. Around the same time, I heard about war for the first time. I was 5 and thought to myself, "why don't they just talk about it?" It seemed obvious that verbal and physical violence was completely unnecessary.

 

This was the first sign of my purpose, which is about being a lifetime student and mentor of love, self-love, effective solution-oriented communication, and dealing with our own emotions with loving kindness.

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Growing up as the oldest of 5 kids to a single mother was tough. People thought I'd never amount to anything, but I always knew in my being, that I came here with a purpose to make a difference in this world by helping others.

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I've overcome depression, sexual abuse, divorce, multiple confusing relationships with narcissists, the loss of my mentally ill mother at the same time my fiance and I were separating, the pain of not knowing my father, and these are just some highlights.

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The super painful upbringing life gifted me gave me an intense hunger for healing, getting free of suffering, and knowing my authentic self -which brought me to personal development in 2001 and it has been the main focus of my life since then.

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The last straw that made me give up on love happened after a deeply dissatisfying sexual experience with my emotionally abusive narcissistic boyfriend, who told me that I was responsible for my orgasms, not him. WTF! I gave him EVERYTHING. I (thought I) did EVERYTHING right. And he still didn't love me.

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I decided love happened for some people but not for me. I sobbed all the way to work that day, completely disillusioned with life and love. For the first time ever, I realized that I had to learn to be happy, WITHOUT a man. Radical new concept for me.

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In between my 45/hr a week job and selling homemade cookies to pay for my graduate program in spiritual psychology at USM, I dove deep into myself to get to the bottom of how on earth such a GREAT catch like myself ended up with such a douchebag. I shed decades of emotional pain from my past.

 

After going through a profound healing that got me to the bottom of why my love life was not working, I met my then-husband. The higher purpose of that relationship led me to heal anxious attachment and people-pleasing. On the other side we chose to amicably part ways as my values had changed but not his. This relationship was a success on the spiritual level, as it provided me with growth opportunities to claim my value and worth so deeply that it transformed how I operate in the world.

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The pain of ending up in so many disappointing relationships with people who seemed right for me and the frustration of making the same mistakes over and over again were the BLESSINGS in disguise that led to the greatest healing of my life...

 

That of growing deeply in love, respect, and integrity with myself so I would no longer compromise, no matter how in love, how great the sex, or how nice it feels for someone to say ALL the right things. This is true POWER. I want this for YOU.

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My mission is to help YOU heal, 

find peace with yourself and your past,

fall in love with yourself,

own your worth fully,

and understand how love works

so you can date confidently,

say NO to the wrong ones

and save your YES for the right one.